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New York, New York! 

What an amazing, colorful, fast paced, sky scraping city is New York at Christmas time! We traveled there as a group, our daughter-in-law and her church choir, our son and three grandsons, and I. At dinner in the hotel that night, our daughter from California, my chaperone, joined us and all together we went to Hershey’s Chocolate World on Times Square for the largest, gooiest s’more I have ever had.

On the second day we found seats for eight at a small Italian place for lunch. When we could not eat all of the pizza that was served, we asked for a take-out box. Well, the only box they had was a large pizza box that did not close very well. Our son was carrying it on our way to Central Park. I said, It’s ridiculous to walk through Central Park with a pizza box, and the lid can fly open at any time! Let’s give it to a homeless person. That was easier said than done. In all the streets we walked through we did not encounter a single homeless person. We saw more of them at night, huddled on the side of the buildings in the freezing rain. We crossed into Central Park, and there I saw one! Away from the path, in the sun under a tree, lay a man, covered by a thin grey blanket. Next to him stood a water bottle and behind the tree I saw part of what looked like a shopping cart and an umbrella. I took the pizza box from our son and walked across the grass. He was just a shapeless form, laying on his side, his back toward me. Sir, would you like some leftover pizza? I asked. Yes, was the muffled answer. I will put the box down right next to you, I said. Thank you. He did not move. I walked back to the path and the waiting family members. Half an hour later, on the way back to the hotel, we passed the same spot. The shadows had lengthened, but the figure still lay motionless in the sun. He had put the pizza box under his behind. The ground must have been freezing, and his thin blanket did not even cover him completely. 

The following days, while the choir rehearsed for five hours, the family headed in different directions. From the skating rink in Central Park to the Guggenheim museum to Rockefeller Center, where I worked for a year in 1961, to Bloomingdales, where Mike worked at that time. When the Guggenheim was opened, we lived in New York but never saw any of her exhibits, nor the awe-inspiring circular walkway inside. The architect, Frank Lloyd Wright, advised people to see the exhibits walking from the top down – and so we did.

The 911 Memorial on Ground Zero was extremely moving in its simple beauty with waterfalls of tears falling endlessly into an infinity pool and from there down again into two voids. Michael Arad, the architect, whose design was selected from 5000 others, had watched the second plane hit the South Tower from his roof on the Lower East Side. He described how, in the days immediately following the WTC attacks, he  first envisioned a memorial that incorporated the element of water. His original design, aimed to evoke the impassable separation between the living and the dead — “a threshold that one cannot cross” — was rejected, but he was able to preserve the water element that was so central to his design: two square, below-ground reflecting pools are surrounded by waterfalls that begin above ground level. He imagined the pools of water to be “two voids tearing open a surface of water and the river failing to fill it up”. “The “inexplicable image,” he added, “captured a sense of rupture and continued absence” that intrigued him. The names of those who died in the attacks and recovery efforts are inscribed on bronze panels in the plaza overlooking the Memorial.

We had two days of sunshine, two of freezing rain, then snow. We walked an average of six miles a day, through blizzards from the hotel to the theaters at night, in double layers of clothes. I had an umbrella with me, my daughter’s umbrella flipped over to half the size, and the others pulled up the hoods of their jackets in an effort to stay dry. We struggled to find the right subway line and the right platform, walking down and up stairs to get there and down and up again; we used a shared Lyft twice, and took a yellow cab once. I was so happy that I could do it all, without pain, thanks to a hot pad and coffee in bed in the early morning and Tylenol throughout the day.

With the family, we went to see Wicked, The Rockettes, and then the beautiful Christmas show Heaven’s Child in Carnegie Hall’s largest theater. Our daughter-in-law’s solo was amazing, and far too short! We had never been there before as a young, just married couple. Imagine the five of us sitting in a center loge, looking down to see the full 10 choirs from two stories high! A once-in-a-lifetime  experience.

What intrigued me most in New York City, other than the bright colors at night of continuously changing billboards, window displays and Christmas trees, were the shapes of the buildings. My pictures can’t do justice to them but I am enjoying the memories.

It’s a Wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny

 

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Good News

The best news is that there are several things wrong in my left shoulder but I do not need surgery! Two days ago I already started PT. The not so good news is that, because of the homework I have for PT of my shoulder and for my vocal cords and my own floor exercises to try and heal my spinal stenosis, I am running out of writing time. With ten days to go before my trip to New York City and all the preparations it will take to get ready, I won’t even be able to sneak in a paragraph or two.

So, I am hoping to return to my Mac and you during the second week of December, with a lot of glowing news about everything that took place during that time.

It’s a Wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny

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CMS Raleigh

Community Music School in Raleigh, having just moved their location to the brand new Longleaf School of the Arts, invited us to a reception to introduce us to the new facility, honor the donors and showcase some of the students’ performances. Several people have donated grand pianos, a whole piano lab even, and a lot of money. Our son, since September 2018 has been the first  Executive Director, and is considered by all the best ever addition to the company. His wife is the Interim Program Manager, assisting him in many various programs. CMS enables underprivileged children to take after school music lessons for $1 per hour. They teach a wide range of instruments and musical styles; their Music Technology program teaches recording and production, and their Musical Theater Program provides valuable stage experience to budding actors. It is a fabulous organization with a growing attendance. Because the Longleaf School of the Arts is in the center of Raleigh, and it would be dark by the start time of the reception, and because nobody likes me to drive in the dark, we decided to ride with Uber. That was our second time, and it was a good experience. The first time, around Christmas last year, I could not open the app, and we ended up with a ride home from Raleigh arranged all the way from California by our daughter, who uses Uber all the time. But this time, one way only, was a success. The CMS reception was an elegant affair with piano music when the guests were arriving, beautifully decorated tables with petit fours, fruits, vegetables, nuts, small quiches and various other delicacies. Bubbling apple cider was served in gold-glittered champagne glasses. All that had been organized by our daughter in law, who is extremely artistic. Student performances, speeches and honoring various donors made for a beautiful evening.

Massaging my vocal cords

Have you ever massaged your vocal cords or stretched them? Have you even thought of doing that if you are not a singer? Well, I never did either one, until now. To my list of medical professionals like Internist, Ophthalmologist, Podiatrist, Orthopedic Surgeon, I have now added an ENT. For the past couple of months I noticed that my voice was changing. It got dark and rasping, like that of a chain smoker. So I went to see an ENT, right across the street. Everything is so nice and close (except dog training classes). My ENT concluded that I have age related loss of elasticity of my vocal cords. Ha! I never knew something like that existed! But if that was all, could I do something about it? He asked if I perhaps talked little, whereupon I told him the opposite is the case: I talk to my husband, (sometimes too much to his liking), I talk to my dog, I talk to myself and even to people I meet in a store. So I have plenty of practice daily! On Tuesday I started voice therapy, once every two weeks or so, for a couple of months, and then I should have my lovely voice back. Of course it involves homework several times a day, trills of a single note, trills sliding up and down the scale and so on, massaging and stretching my vocal cords. The first time I did it the dog started barking and Mike called, “What are you doing?” So now I do my trills in the office with the door closed, or in the car when I am driving somewhere, and the silent “s’s” I can do anywhere. With proper guidance, my body will heal itself!

MRI

The day before you are reading this, on Tuesday morning at 7:30 a.m. (I am an early bird) I will have had an MRI of my shoulder. After six weeks and a cortisone shot it still hurts, and I hope to find out that it can be cured by physical therapy only and I will not need surgery. But with many other activities, two more weeks of dog training plus classes on Saturdays (and she must get that AKC Good Citizen diploma this time!) and a large sewing project coming up my posts will be shorter in the weeks to come. I love sewing and have not done it in ages. I still kept the ancient Singer sewing machine which I purchased from our neighbor (the little old lady in Pasadena) in 1989, and once in a while it comes in handy. In addition, in eighteen days, my trip to New York will become a reality, and preparing for that will take time. All fun things, that will mean I will not have the abundant time I have currently to write.

It’s a Wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny

 

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Halloween!

In a senior community like ours, Halloween is not an event with scary masks and ghosts and witches. It is more a dress-up party and about ten people had donned a costume or a wig at our Halloween Social. A good witch in pink and purple won the prize. We as the Captain and the sailor girl had a good time with trivia, libations and taking pictures. The 101-year old lady, at our suggestion, came dressed as The Little Old Lady Of Pasadena. We used to live next to a little old lady in Pasadena, and know the term, but it was not until yesterday that I found out that there was a song in the sixties sung by the Beach Boys and others, and that image was completely different than the image we had of her, based on our neighbor. In the song, The Little Old Lady of Pasadena drove real fast and she drove real hard and she was the terror of Colorado Boulevard. Is there anyone who remembers hearing this song?

Another party took priority over writing more and posting on time!

It’s a Wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny

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Gatsby Night: A Murder Mystery

Waltonwood was transformed into a thirties scene. The employees were dressed Gatsby style with glitter and fringed dresses, feathered headbands and long strings of pearls. An outside company had been hired to put up heavy black satin and gold sequined drapes at the entrance of the dining room, and another outside company organized the event. Five actors provided us with information about the setting and one of them was stabbed to death in the Café. Butler-served hors d’oeuvres were delicious and good wines were served from bottles instead of wine served from carton boxes which we get at Happy Hour on Friday afternoons. The event benefited the American Heart Association and raffle tickets produced the lucky winners of all of the beautiful gift baskets on the tables in the hallway. People from other retirement communities joined us to make for a full dining room. To tell you the truth, things were a little complicated to understand for people in their eighties and nineties, especially those who had never done a murder mystery before and had no clue about what questions to ask whom. But it was a lively, fun event and it reminded me of the time when I was a little girl that my mother danced the Charleston for us and showed us a picture of herself in a fringed dress.

Obedience Training with Distractions

Lani can hardly be managed when we get to the obedience class. Five other dogs are sitting next to their mother in the large circle, but Lani had to be separated by a whole screen across the room and got private training from the assistant in “come when called”. Well, she got so many treats back and forth that she had irregular soft stool for two days and did not eat regular food. She is back on schedule now, but I wonder if she will ever be a well trained dog!

Shoulder Woes

The cortisone injection in my shoulder two weeks ago is not helping yet and I sure hope that I will not need another shoulder surgery. If I do, I will definitely go back to the surgeon who did my right shoulder, but with all the festivities coming up, I dread the thought. So, thinking positively, I will be well again and a free of pain in a few weeks. After all, it is just a bursa. And so, on we go!

It’s a Wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny

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Party Plans

October, November, December: the days are getting shorter, daylight savings time is not until November 3 this year. But the longer evenings will provide fun events, organized by the WW team. This week we will attend Gatsby Night, a Murder Mystery. We’ll have breakfast and brunch and take-out packages for dinner that day, and then from 5 – 8 p.m. the Mystery with “butler served hors d’oeuvres” and refreshments. We skipped a similar event last year, but will try it this week. An outside company will organize it and bring three actors to stage the game. Sounds like fun!

For Halloween we are invited to a Halloween Social at 2:30 p.m., and because last year about fifteen people dressed up, we’ll have some fun with it as well. Last year, I donned my original Dutch costume. That was fun, because I had only worn it a few times way back in California. But with all the layers on my body it was very warm. Mike had a captain’s hat and a mustache, but the mustache did not stay up so he went barefaced. This year, the captain’s hat for Mike will be the only thing he will wear again, so I found a very cute dress online to go with the captain as a sailor girl. And, I had to laugh at the thought, I ordered a red tulle petticoat to make the dress look more “retro.” Imagine, I’ll be wearing a dress with a red petticoat! Only on Halloween! Too many years I’ve been a witch, and too many people are dressing up as witches, so I’ll be a sailor girl to walk next to my captain. The only thing different is that the pillbox hat the dress came with is child size. So I will wear another captain’s hat we still had in the “dress-up trunk”.

Cancer

In the cottages we are not up to date on everything that happens at the Club. And so it came as a depressing surprise that one of our friends, who recently came home from the hospital after an “easy” surgery during which they took away a cancerous tumor and part of her lung, still has cancer cells in her body. Tonight, we saw her during dinner wearing a wig. Now, several people with thinning hair are wearing a wig here, so we thought it was a preview of Halloween. But no, she has to undergo a brain MRI and chemo for any metastasized cells. She is prepared to fight: she has all the medications the doctor prescribed for after the treatments, including hair! What a brave soul, to talk about it so lightly. What a horrible disease is cancer! How blessed am I to not have it!

It’s a Wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny

 

 

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Teenage Woes

On Tuesday I took Lani to the second dog park of the two parks in Cary, the one I had been to with her once before. There was only one man there and one dog. The dogs had a grand old time for about fifteen minutes, then the other dog needed to go home and so did I. But Lani ran far away, all around the perimeter of the park and did not react to my call “Lani, Come!”, the first and most important command that she had always obeyed at home. Another dog came in and Lani ran to him but stayed outside my reach. The second dog left and I did not know what to do. I threw a ball to her – she did not even look. I said goodbye, walked to my car, slammed the door so she would hear I was leaving, and parked the car in another spot. No results. I went back in with a treat (not really allowed in the park, said the owner of the third dog). Lani did not care about a treat – the other dog immediately came to sit next to me: my new friend. Finally, a forth dog with owner arrived. I told her about my challenge and asked her to stay in the hold between the parking lot and the wood chip park with her dog, so I could lure Lani in. Sure enough, that worked! Lani came running toward the other dog, and when I opened the gate for her and she came in, I could finally put her on the leash. I scolded her all the way home. It’s a good thing that we are starting another seven weeks of obedience training on Saturday mornings, this time with distractions. I sure hope that when Thanksgiving rolls around, she will have that coveted Good Citizen Award.

Another thing: for the past two weeks Lani did not want to eat breakfast or dinner. I was worried for a while. Last month, when she stopped eating, I gave away what was left of the bag of Puppy Chicken and Rice kibbles and bought a bag of Adult Beef and Rice at Pet Smart. She did eat that for a few days and then stopped again. So now we take it away if she does not eat. We’ll see what happens. It has been a long time since we had a dog that would not eat!

Doctors

This Monday, nine days after I fell into the hole in the grass, I knew the pain was not muscular – no ice pack or hot pack had worked and I did not have my normal range of motion without pain  with my left arm. I was lucky: I could get an appointment that same day with the orthopedic surgeon I had seen before when my right shoulder badly needed surgery. Right there in the office they took X-Rays and the doctor could determine that my bones were ok, so it was the bursa or tendon that had received the trauma of my fall. He offered to do a Cortisone shot, which I gladly accepted. Continuing with Advil, the pain is much less already, and I could even participate in a half hour of chair yoga today. What he said when I asked if I could expect a cure and how soon I would be well again? “I am not sure, but if it does not seem to work we could consider an MRI or amputation.” Ha, ha, a doctor’s joke. I would certainly go for a second opinion!  Which is what I did for my right shoulder. I wanted the best of the best, and am very happy I did, because it was not a shoulder replacement, but a very complicated surgery indeed.

Another doctor’s story: when we moved to Prescott in 2001, I needed a new prescription for hypertension pills. I found a doctor who took Medicare and made an appointment. The nurse took my blood pressure and noticed it was high, let me lay down and rest until the doctor came in. When he did, an Asian doctor, brown skinned with slanted eyes, wearing camouflage pants, I thought a Japanese soldier was bending over me to take my blood pressure again. It shot up to dangerous levels! The doctor wrote a new prescription and let me go. I never went back.

The doctor I found after him I was with for a few years, until something he said hit me the wrong way. As I went into his office and a heavy-set older man shuffled out towards the desk to pay, and I asked him what was wrong with that patient (a wrong question of course, but I was on good terms with the doctor), the doctor said “He has very high blood pressure.” So, remembering my condition a few years ago, I asked if he got good medication. “No,” the doctor said, “but everybody has to die of something.” That was the end of that doctor for me!

I have had good, pleasant doctors since then, in Arizona as well as here in Cary. The Primary Cary Physician we have now even comes to our house to check our vitals. She is with Doctors Making House Calls. And that is a wonderful thing for us, saving a lot of time and knowing that we are in good hands with frequent checkups, shots, blood draws and what have you. So…

It’s Wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny

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Dementia

It is often called the disease of the century. In the past, it was rarely acknowledged, but as the numbers increase, the disease becomes more visible. Someone develops dementia every three seconds. Approximately one out of six people over eighty gets dementia, and the higher the age, the higher the chance. Of all the illnesses today it is the one we fear most. Our generation is now aware of it in a way that is vastly different from twenty or thirty years ago and this awareness brings social, moral and political responsibility. A diagnosis – very important to get it early – is just the beginning of a process with many stages, different for everybody, that can take years of fear and sorrow.

At the three classes at NCSU, and through a book I am reading, I have learned the basics of the various kinds of dementia. People in progressing stages of dementia who live here are moved from Independent Living to the Memory Care wing, and if you don’t have a loved one who moved there, you don’t see those people any more. They are well taken care of until the end of their lives, and their loved ones can visit of course, but for us they are out of sight, gone forever, even though they are still living on the other side of two doors. It’s all good and well to read about it and to talk about it, but for me it feels so unreal. I have not experienced the trauma that people go through when they keep losing more and more of their brain cells, which changes their perception of life, everything they knew and did and felt and created and makes them into helpless shadows of who they once were. It’s still unreal – it was that is, until dementia happened to a good friend, Jacob, living miles away.

Before we moved to the east coast and said goodbye, I knew that he had became more and more forgetful. Until then Dementia to me was a word, the name of a disease, dawning on the horizon, idealized by the powerful farewell letter of Ronald Regan, who said, “I now begin the journey that will lead me into the sunset of my life.” But two years later, the very personal stories from his caregiver about Jacob’s condition, gripped my heart. The changes in him were hard to imagine; his manic behavior, the hallucinations that plagued him, the outbursts of fury, his inability to take care of himself – that was not our friend Jacob anymore; and yet, it was. It was the body of himself with a mind that was crumbling away. The realization that my wonderful, strong friend had the terrible disease that was changing him to a mindless human being hit me hard.

It is one thing to read about all that, but to know that these awful things are happening to a friend, a good friend, in his nineties now, and knowing that the symptoms are getting worse with time is unbelievably painful. How his caregiver must suffer. Eventually, even with the best intentions, it will not be possible for one person to take care of her changing loved one. A Memory Care Home with well trained people can take over – if there is insurance in place. I remember that I wrote earlier about a lovely woman with dementia and her husband here in Independent Living, who moved out. The husband, a Navy Veteran who proudly wore his cap day and night, moved to a less expensive place, and what happened to his wife is unknown. According to one of the managers people like that are just turned loose onto the streets. Just imagine. It happens. Not in a third world country, but right here in the city where I live! I heard about it but there was nothing I could do! The only consolation I have is that I bought her a flowered navy long sleeved shirt and navy vest last year, before she disappeared.

Changes!

From one day to the next fall has arrived. From daytime temperatures continuing in the nineties and nighttimes barely offering relief, nights are now in the low sixties and today reached only 72 degrees. I love summer, but such hot weather is not agreeable with long walks, so fall will bring a pleasant change. Next Saturday Lani and I will start the next obedience class with distractions, and hopefully she will earn her AKC Good Citizen reward just before Thanksgiving. Phew! Then I will take a well deserved break and go to New York!

Last night after dinner, we looked at the Fall and Winter Music Programs in the Triangle area. I have learned to mirror-screen with my Apple TV, so we could see the programs together on the TV. We selected one concert each month, one ballet (Macbeth, supposed to be spectacular) and a couple of Christmas Choir performances, one of which at the beautiful, intimate Duke Chapel. We’ll have to find out in which performances Dennis is playing to double our enjoyment.

Because of that I did not walk Lani as usual, until it was completely dark. I was planning to make it a short walk, but in the dark I stepped into a foot-deep hole in the grass, right next to the pavement and fell. “I fell!” I said out loud to Lani, who had turned around and sat watching me. I never fall! This surprised me more than I was hurt. I got up, found both leashes and we continued our walk – short, to be sure! No damages other than a sore shoulder (the left one this time), a painful muscle down my right leg and a blue bruise on my right butt, where it had hit the pavement. It amazes me that bruises on my arms are always dark red and the one on my butt is blue! With the help of some Advil and a hot pad with our the morning coffee, floor exercises for the muscle, and a three mile walk in Wimbledon, I am almost good as new again today. To make sure nobody else would fall into the same trap (a large hole next to a sprinkler head) I stuck a thick, three foot branch into the hole and attached several orange tape ribbons. The gardeners will have to take care of it next week. It could have been much worse. I feel blessed !

It’s a Wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny

 

 

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Surgery

I had noticed a little cyst on the outside of the lower eyelid of my left eye and made an appointment with my ophthalmologist to have it removed. It seemed an easy thing to do for an eye surgeon, but when he came in to the room and said, “Good morning, how are you?” I could not help asking, just to be sure,
“I’m well, thank you, but how are you? Do you have steady hands this morning?”
“Oh yes, Miss Ronny. I do surgery inside the eye through a microscope, so this is easy for me,” and we both laughed. And with that he proceeded with bright lights and a needle and alcohol and a scalpel and tweezers, and ten minutes later he applied Neosporin and gauze; no stitches needed. Hooray! Another doctor’s visit was behind me. Tomorrow I may apply mascara again and can look people in the eye.

Movies

The bus (and the new Cadillac) took 13 of our residents to the theater in Apex to watch Downton Abbey. While it was a television series we had only watched it once in a while, so I knew most of the actors and the characters they portrayed. The movie is a sequel to the original series, and I have not had such an enjoyable evening in a long time! The plot included a visit of the King and Queen of England, an attempt to shoot the King during his visit, and even two men who discovered their love for one another and went dancing in a gay bar (imagine, in those days!). The incomparable Maggie Smith (Dame Margaret Natalie Smith CH DBE, born 28 December 1934), as Violet Crawley, Granny, urged Lady Mary Crawley (Michelle Dockery) to keep Downton Abbey going after her death. But don’t let me spoil the story, go see the movie if you have a chance. I love Lady Mary, the British accents of all actors, the happy endings for many of them.

I just read about a new movie, now in the theaters: Judy. Played by another one of my favorite actresses: Renee Zellweger, the movie shows Judy Garland in the final years of her life. What a fascinating performance that will be: Renee does her own singing! I love movies!

Talking about movies: the movie producer I met early this month is about to release his new movie just in time for Halloween! My Soul To Keep just got nominated for Best Picture, Best Director, Best Actor, Best Supporting Actor, Best Acting ensemble, Best Music, and Best Cinematography at the Chicago Horror Film Festival! Good news heading into the October 4th release! WOW. Personally, I don’t think I would enjoy watching a horror movie, but if you want to see something really scary at Halloween, go see the Best Picture produced by my new friend My Soul To Keep.

AKC Good Citizen Dog test

On Saturday Lani and I set out to do the fifteen minute test at the testing center, after six weeks of training. Alas, she did not get the AKC certificate yet. Of the ten test points, she failed three, all having to do with sitting down when meeting strangers and keeping calm when meeting other dogs. She is not consistent yet in her behavior. So on we go: on October 12 we will start the next seven weeks of training, this time with distractions. At the end of that she will have another chance to get the coveted AKC Good Citizen Certificate.

OLLI class at NCSU

I have taken a three-week class at NCSU, presented by a docent of the Dementia Alliance of North Carolina. I enjoyed two weeks of incredibly informative information on the differences between Dementia and Alzheimer’s: the symptoms, the progression, the chemical and physical changes that are happening in the brain of people with dementia, understanding their loss of memory and ways we can help. It has been so interesting for me, because I did not know anything about it. I am a resident in a retirement community because we planned ahead: when we would reach our eighties, we wanted to live close to one of our children. At a retirement community like this one almost everything is included in the rent. Of course it is expensive, but not much more expensive than owning and maintaining your own home and the grounds, the cooking and cleaning, taxes and so on. Many people who move here, however, are far in their nineties because they wanted to stay in their own home as long as possible. Wile memory loss is not a sign of normal aging, in many cases it does come with age. And so we have many mentally healthy nonagenarians here, but also many in various stages of memory loss. I am thankful that I was able to learn more about it in this professional class so I can help people around me who may need help one way or another.

It’s a Wonderful World!

Until next time,

Ronny

 

 

 

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The Beauty Parlor

As long as I can remember I have been interested in learning many practical things I could do myself without having to pay maintenance guys to do it. My Dad, early on, kindled my interest in hands-on projects, like helping him close the crop of one of our doves (which he had slit open with a scalpel to remove a blockage). I had to use a four inch long curved needle threaded with cotton yarn, to tug it back and forth through the tough skin of the crop. With that, he was training me for Med School in the future of course; but he instilled an interest in fixing technical things of all kinds. Much later, when we lived in Pasadena, California, I enjoyed many classes: how to fix things under the hood of a car, how to replace a flat tire. After that, on a more personal level, I took classes in massage and acupressure. When I graduated, I thought I could practice on my family members, but they were not interested. The only one who was game was our son, when he was a teenager. Because of the lack of a proper massage table, he would stretch his long body out on the bar in the kitchen, face down, while I worked away on his muscles with fragrant honeysuckle scented massage oil. He liked it, but it did not happen very often. The good thing about that class is that I learned the names and locations of muscle groups, tendons, nerve points and more. I still share acupressure with people who have headaches; I hardly have headaches myself, happy to say.

Still in Pasadena, when I started my own business selling acrylic nail products for a chemist friend, I learned to apply acrylic nails, and of course I have always applied my own nail polish on my own hands and feet. In 1976 I was invited to participate in a Hair Show at the Hilton Hotel. A new cut and color were introduced into my life, just when I embarked on my modeling and acting career. Soon after that I learned to do it myself, color that is, and I have applied my own color ever since. Think how much money that saved me! I leave the hair cutting to a professional. But let me get to the point of the Beauty Parlor.

In Arizona, where we lived after twelve years in Hawai’i, I found a nail tech in the hair salon, who did my nails, and I found another one here, in North Carolina, who took over. What luxury! After I had shoulder surgery in 2018, I needed massage therapy for three months. I found a Massage Parlor within two miles from where I live and the masseuse was so good, that I now have a regular massage once a month! To top it all off, at the same Massage Parlor I found an aesthetician with velvety-soft fingers who treated me to a wonderful first-ever facial. I was sold. I reasoned with myself that I have now reached the wonderful age to be pampered to keep in shape and beautiful. And guess what?  I convinced myself that now I can spend all the money that I saved in my earlier years on my beautification and health today. If you figure it out: money saved in the past, spent today and in the near future: +$$$ = -$$$ It equals out to 0. YES!

The little cocoon

For two weeks I have been keeping an eye on the folded leaf in which I saw a little caterpillar encapsulate himself preparing his change into a moth or butterfly. Google said: 5 days to 21 days. Alas! Today, the winds had blown almost all of the yellowing and browning leaves off the tree. I could not find the one I had been watching so closely, and all I could do was hope that the little creature had flown away on the wings of the storm.

It’s a wonderful Life!

Until next time,

Ronny