Ronny

Super Achievement!

Our son Dennis de Jong has been ranked among the top 1000 licensed real estate agents nationwide, out of a total of 1,554,604. Can you imagine how proud we are?

Highlights!   

My mother’s historical account about the life of innocent civilians in Japanese concentration camps during World War Two in the Pacific is still being shared. I am grateful.

How to extend not just life span, but health span

I read an interesting interview of  Hank Wuh, MD, MPH, on LinkedIn. He is talking about the key to a vibrant, good, long, healthy life. “We all age at a certain speed. At the same time because of innovations and technologies, the rate of slowing down aging will become faster than the rate that we live. So for every additional year that we live in the fourth quarter of life, our lifespan increases dramatically. There are so many breakthroughs. We will have to find the breakthroughs, the X-factors that will impact our life in a meaningful way, even double our lifespan eventually”.

Dr. Wuh continued to explain that he spends 10% of every day, roughly two and a half hours, on himself; taking care of his body and his mind with exercise, meditation and prayer.

It sounds wonderful, especially if you don’t have major medical problems in the fourth quarter of your life. I am going to give it a try!

Until next time,

Ronny 

Returning to last year, 2025

Hello again! I did not have time for anything since August except for the care of Mike. Shortly after his 88th birthday, in August, he fell, and ever since he has received Hospice care. A blessing. I can take care of him at home, with the help of caregivers and Hospice. And although Mike is bedridden, he is pain free, comfortable and happy.

In the mean time, we celebrated Thanksgiving, Christmas and my birthday. I will end this post, and the year 2025, with a picture that looks like a painting. Created by my daughter-in-law with the help of AI, from a headshot in the Christmas family picture.

Be safe, be happy!

Until next year!

Ronny

Changes

Hello again! Not only do you have to check my website’s Blog if you want to read the latest post, but the posts will be shorter (one of you called it a Blog-ette :-)). That’s because I can only write when I have time and I don’t want to let it sit until I will have time again. The good thing is that the posts will not come only once a week but more often. So here goes:

Dental Joy

Earlier this week, I got a new crown on my #1 wisdom tooth. The tooth, including the filling, had broken clear in half, without me noticing. The dentist discovered it at my six-month checkup. The procedure was painless, and the new crown feels smooth. But at night, when I put in my Invisalign retainer – which I use at night to keep my upper and lower teeth from moving – the top one did not fit. Oops. I had just seen a special at the dental office for $499 a set. (They sell them by the set, even though one of them is still good). I called the dentist and left a message with the receptionist. I never heard back.

This morning, I took the matter in thy own hands (literally). I planned to cut off the last part of the retainer, which would cover the new crown. Well, the scissors did not work; the plastic was too hard. So I got the wire clippers from the garage and yes! I could clip off the last part. I filed the sharp edges with a nail file and…Yes! It fits! The retainer goes on as before! Hooray!

Would you believe that five minutes later the dentist’s receptionist called back to make an appointment! The dentist was going to adjust the retainer. I said,”the retainer is hard plastic, it can’t be adjusted.” “Well, he is going to cut off the last part.” I said, “really? I just did that myself, with a wire clipper, and I filed the sharp edges with my nail file. It fits perfectly.” We both had a good laugh.

Caregiving

Although taking care of Mike is a physically demanding job, especially at my age, that does not mean we are not having fun. Mike may not remember anything, but he is responsive. He reminds me daily to open or close the blinds and pull up the clock weights. We make jokes, especially before going to bed, and I would not miss this for anything: to make the most of the little he has left in life while we still can.

Our Chef

Yesterday was the third time that our Chef came to cook for us. After a little while, the noise in the kitchen and the music of  André Rieu on the TV, and Lani barking occasionally became too much for Mike. I put Lani in the guest room, turned the TV off, and then the smoke alarms went off. In every room. Pandemonium! With a broomstick hit on the nearest alarm the noise stopped, and I opened the patio door. I guess it was all worth it. For dinner last night we had pork loin with cranberry sauce over wild rice. Delicious!

Enjoy Life! Stay well!

Until next time,

Ronny

Sabbatical

After February, I just could not find time anymore to write, or read for that matter, or take any time for myself except for haircuts and a manicure once in a while. Taking care of Mike and the house, and all appointments and telephone calls to doctors and the like, the plants, the dog, the birds, took all my time.

But I am back! I found a little more than an extra hour in my day! Let me tell you what happened.

Time! Oh Joy!

Last night, after dinner, I thought: What should I do now? I can’t just sit down and read, there must be something I have to do. But there was nothing I could think of. And it was not yet time to get ready for bed! Wow!

My daughter-in-law had sent me a link to CHEFS FOR SENIORS in Raleigh. I checked them out and signed up! Once a week, a Chef comes to our house with all he needs to cook up a storm. He is here now, and this is his second week. Two days before he comes, I select three or four dinners from his extensive Menu list. He shops for all ingredients (my charge), and for an additional fee he creates 10 to 12 individual meals, enough for a week. He boxes them and labels them and puts them in the fridge. He then cleans up everything and leaves. The cost per meal is about the same as I paid for meals I used to order from restaurants with DoorDash or pick up from Donovan’s Dish.

And what a change in my daily life! I am gaining more than an hour by not having to think about where to order our next dinner, and what to order, waiting for the delivery, which is sometimes later than I ordered, dishing it up, heating it. And then after dinner the kitchen cleanup would be waiting.

Now, we can eat at 5:00 p.m. We have fresh meals with a variety of fresh vegetables, and not always overcooked broccoli from restaurants. An hour later there is nothing more to do. So we can have time together, Mike can go to bed earlier, and I have more than half an hour to myself at the end of the day. Soon, I will even have time to walk with Lani after dinner.

This must be it for today. The Chef is almost leaving and it will be time for our siesta. What a life!

Treasure Life! Stay well!

Until next time,

Ronny

Hot water recirculation pump 

That was a dream that did not come true. The plumber who checked it out told me some of the disadvantages: if the pump was on, I could get immediate hot water, but not cold. So I could not wash my hands in warm and then brush my teeth with cold water – just to name an example; plus, it needed weekly maintenance. Well, I did not need another maintenance job, so I decided against it. However, the plumber showed me that the water heater was installed in 2011. Its life expectancy is 8 – 10 years. So instead of a recirculation pump I have set up an appointment for a new water heater. And no, I do not get a discount for turning in the old one, even though it is in good shape 🙁

Car key trouble

Last week, when I left for Physical Therapy early in the morning, a message appeared on my dashboard: Car key battery low. That was new to me. OK, I decided, I will get some fruit at Lowes after PT and then go to the AAA office down the street. It did not work. When I got back to the car with my fruit, I could not open it. I knew there is a spare key in that key, but I could not get it out. Back in the store: I called a young man to the rescue (those young people know all  kind of technical stuff, right?). To make a long story short: he got the little spare key out, walked back to the car with me, but it did not work. With the help of another employee, who had a special tool, he opened the car key, bought a battery for me and put it in. No charge. “I like to do nice things for people” he said. Back to the car: it still did not open the car. I suggested I would call AAA roadside assistance. Yes, but my membership card was in the car, together with my driver license; I had only taken my credit card to buy fruit. He called the AAA number for me, I talked to them and arranged a tow to my house. It would take an hour and a half before they could be there.

It was then that I called Dennis. He told me to cancel the tow and wait for him. Did I have a spare key somewhere in the house? Yes, in a secret hiding place. He found it and together with his wife he came and found me in the parking lot. He got the little key out of the car key, and opened the door with it. Just like that! Then he drove my car home with the spare key and I went home with my daughter-in-law and the groceries.

Back home, Dennis discovered that the store employee had put the new battery in upside down; he advised to leave the spare key in a place close to the front door, and that was that. How wonderful to have a smart son within a five mile distance!

A Winter Storm

Yesterday, we had a bright blue sky and hard wind. I took a lovely walk in the neighborhood by myself. Dinner from the Chef was delicious and we had a nice evening. But they were warning for a fierce winter storm. I heard that the shelves in grocery stores were half empty, batteries were hard to get, a doctor’s appointment was cancelled, as was PT. People seemed really scared. But nothing indicated that a storm was brewing. Until this morning. The sky was overcast and the wind had died down. It was kind of eery. On my walk I did not see a soul, nor a car; all flags had disappeared from the homes, the blinds closed. There was not a sound in the neighborhood: it was waiting for the storm. And then, exactly as predicted, the snow started falling at 10:30 a.m. Very light flakes at first, and now, in the afternoon, there is a one inch layer on the patio fence. How beautiful! We’ll see what happens next.

Someone warned for blackouts when power lines are icy. OK, we have two lanterns and a lot of candles. Yes, but when Mike is stretched out in his recliner and there is no electricity, he can’t get out. Well, for today there is no threat of icy power lines and blackouts. So we hope for the best and enjoy the beauty of the falling snow. A home-cooked dinner tonight, André Rieu, on the TV and a good book!

Little things mean a lot

Just like the employee at Lowes Grocery store, there are other people that drop little moments of joy at the most unexpected times. An Amazon driver wrote on the outside of a large box: Thank you so much! Have a nice day! And a delivery boy left a note on a food order from a restaurant: Ronny   Hope you’re having the most amazing day ever! Spreading smiles and kindness. Enjoy! 🙂 Your dasher Kobey. Happy Holidays! 

Those little things warm my heart. They are gifts from people who care about others and show it. I have taped those messages on the inside of my front door; I see them every day and smile…

Until next time,

Ronny

Disasters

Unimaginable disasters have happened in the last few weeks. My heart goes out to the people whose loved ones have died in both the airplane crashes, and to the people who lost their homes, their possessions, their all, in the California fires. We used to live in Pasadena close to the fires in Altadena and we remember the neighborhoods, friends’ homes and the high school that burnt down. So sad!

Hot water recirculation pumps

How long does it take for the hot water to come out of your tap? I have not actually counted the time it takes here, but I know it takes long, and a lot of water gets wasted in the process. Or, I just wash my hands with cold water. Thinking back to our home in Prescott, Arizona, I never had that problem; we had that beautiful home built in 2001, and we had immediate hot water every day, any time. I discovered that we had a hot water recirculation pump in our water system!

Last Friday, I found the item online and placed a call to our plumber  – I left a message, because they were already closed for the weekend. I am hoping to hear back Monday morning and am so looking forward to get instant hot water again! The reviews I checked are unanimously positive: hot water recirculation pumps are a valuable addition to any home. They offer convenience, water and energy savings, and environmental benefits. Hot water circulator pumps are powerful for water conservation, saving as much as 1000 gallons per person annually. This type of pump does⁤ not directly impact gas consumption. Its main function is to regulate the ‍flow of water. If you’re looking to reduce water waste, lower your utility bills, or enjoy instant hot water, a recirculating pump is a worthwhile investment. Bottom line: Recirculation Pumps Are a Must. Well, that did it for me! I am so happy and excited! I can’t wait!

Caregivers

I had a change of mind about looking for an evening caregiver for Mike. Those nighttimes we have together, talking Dutch, are so precious. He needs me, and then to let him be getting ready for bed by yet another stranger – I can’t do it. But the problem is solved!

Last Friday, I had an appointment with the Apex orthopedic surgeon to discuss the X-rays and my general low back pain. He suggested wearing a light back brace during the most stressful times, and also  a warm pad with moist heat when sitting down for twenty minutes or so a day. Amazon to the rescue! I had a back brace in the house the same day and wore it at night. On Saturday, while I cooked dinner and had to stand for a long time, I wore it again, and then again on Sunday. The results are astounding. I went to bed without pain, had tremendous energy ever since Friday night (hence the cooking, which I hadn’t done in months), and I walked 3.5 miles both days. Oh Joy!

Last Saturday, and again this Saturday, I took Lani to the parking lot of Duke Primary Care at the end of our street. On one side of the parking lot, empty during weekends, is a bench. So we played ball! I sat on the bench and threw the ball for Lani to fetch. The problem is that she brings it back to me, but never wants to let go. So I have some treats in my pocket, and offer one in exchange for the ball every time, and thence lets me throw it again. Great fun! Afterwards, she carries it all the way back home.

Passport Renewals

Our passports will be expiring in April, that’s ten years after they were issued in Prescott, Arizona. Our son and daughter-in-law came over on Thursday to take care of that. It is amazing how many things you (they) can do online! There were forms to fill out and pictures to take. Official passport pictures! We used to go to Walgreens for those. But they did it! With a white board behind Mike in his chair, and a white wall behind me, they took a close-up headshot of each of us, according to the official measurements. It is the most ugly headshot I have ever seen of myself, and they took many headshots in my life! And it is not postage-stamp size either, no, it’s double the size of a rectangular postage stamp! The solace is that I will not be using my passport anytime soon. And I will carry my Driver License for an ID.

It’s dinner time, so until next time: be happy!

Ronny

Resolutions

Yes, I made them. Among other things, I was going to eke out pockets of time to do some blogging, to read at least one chapter in my new book per day, and to be in bed at 10:00 p.m. every night. Well, in three weeks, I was probably in bed at 10:00 p.m. three times. I think I read five chapters, and I wrote one paragraph in a new blog post. So I was not very successful. But I won’t give up. See? Here I am. Instead of taking a nap.

A visit to my doctor and an x-ray of my lower back resulted in clarification of my lower back pain: too much bending and lifting while taking care of Mike. I have to watch out. So now I am looking for an evening caregiver who can get Mike ready for bed. It only takes an hour, but most caregivers want to come for four hours or longer – some prefer eight hours. While I have nobody yet, I will be extra careful, I have added PT and muscle relaxers. Keeping my fingers crossed!

Friends

December 31, 2024

It’s the last day of the year 2024 and I can’t let it slip by without adding one more post. It has been five months and fifteen days since I last published anything. How I miss writing and reading. Life has changed, basically because as we get “over the hump of 85”,  everything we do happens at a slower pace and I need much more time to take care of Mike.

My physical limitations are minor: still once in a while a problem with my left leg because of the meniscal tear, and vertigo. I do exercises for both, and when there are no symptoms, I have my great energy back with which I could move mountains! Not literally however, because my lower back started complaining about all the bending and lifting I do all day long. I am going back for physical therapy to the therapist who helped me with my torn  meniscus, and just by adding a few more exercises to my early morning schedule, I hope to be able to function again properly and without pain anywhere.

Mike is a wonderful patient, who tells me often that he loves me and still does himself whatever he is capable of. Because of his mobility problems, we have Telehealth doctors’ visits. The dentist, physical therapist, podiatrist and barber come to the house and treat him while he sits comfortably in his recliner. Who has all that??

We have many more blessings. Every day, a caregiver comes to help me for three or four hours; I order groceries and dinners on the computer and they get delivered promptly, and a lovely “dog walker” takes Lani out for a power walk every day, while I walk her in the afternoon in the neighborhood. I am not even close to the 10,000 steps I used to take three years ago, but I am working towards that in the new year. I love walking and there is a lake and also a trail close by.

We had a lovely Christmas together – the whole family came on Christmas Eve, and a neighborhood friend came for coffee on my birthday. A week before, we had a delightful dessert party for two birthdays, our neighbor’s and mine. Let me tell you that having a party before your actual birthday is the best! You can live it up, but you don’t have all the preparations and the cleanup on your special day. We took it easy and had many delicious treats, wonderful phone calls and mail to read. I did not get to open my presents until 5:00 pm 🙂

A proud accomplishment: the poinsettia in the picture came from Trader Joe’s on December 1, 2023. It bloomed until Easter. I nurtured it according to its needs and now, a year later, this is how beautiful it looks.

And now I want to wish you all a wonderful, happy and healthy New Year. May there be peace in your life and on earth. And may you be able to create pockets of time to do the things you love – as I am intended to do 🙂

Until next year!

Ronny

A Geode, Shots and Supplements

Two months have passed, and, like I mentioned before, I have been reading more. What joy! It does come at a price though. I am usually not in bed before 11:00 p.m. because the evenings are so cozy, Mike with his music and I with my book. The summer evenings often bring some rain, refreshing for the border. I trimmed and repotted my Poinsettia, which bloomed until April, and it is sprouting new leaves. In September, I will give it 16 hours of total darkness, according to the rules and then I hope it will bloom again in December.

When we lived in our cottage at Waltonwood, a few years ago, the daughter of one of the residents gave me a geode. It has lived on my desk, a small rock, with a few cracks and a hidden surprise inside. The right time to open it came when my daughter and grandkids were over for ten days. We tried putting it in water in the freezer – it did not crack when we defrosted it. We put it in the grass and hit it in the crack with a screwdriver and a hammer. Nothing happened. Finally, we hit it directly on top with a hammer. Hard. It split in two! It is white inside and has a brown edge. I will try to find a gem store in town and see if they have something I can polish it with. It already sparkles in the light.

If anyone can tell me the name of the white crystals inside, please let me know.

Have you ever heard of PRP?  It stands for Platelet-rich plasma, also known as autologous conditioned plasma. It is a concentrate of plasma protein derived from your own whole blood, centrifuged to remove red blood cells, but leaving life-giving platelets.

I found that an injection with it can help my torn meniscus! After a year, my knee started bothering me again, and I was thinking of another cortisone shot. But then I heard about PRP. A week later, I had found a Naturopathic doctor, got an appointment, and received an injection “under guidance”, in my left knee. Ten days from now, I can either ask for a second injection or, if all pain is gone, wait to find out how well it has worked. I am full of great expectations!

Have you ever heard of Hyaluronic Acid? What it does:

Changes

Hello again, dear friends! I hope this finds you well and happy, because Life is a wonderful gift, no matter your age. The things to enjoy in life are different in each stage; to realize and appreciate that is a gift as well. Being 85 brings not only memories of joy and traveling, but also consequences of the limitations of an aging body. We are not traveling anymore, and most of our enjoyment comes from the shared travel and activities of children and grandchildren. To name a few: one grandson, on his nineteenth birthday, flew as co-pilot two passengers from Raleigh, NC to Tampa, Florida, first time in a jet. He is now studying to become a flight instructor. At nineteen! A granddaughter won third prize in a running competition of a district of fourth graders. Yet another granddaughter sings in an acapella choir and traveled to Carnegie Hall in New York to perform. We watch the collegiate rowing races of another grandson on TV, and the excitement of watching his boat of 8 pull through the finish line as number One is real. I am on the edge of my seat, pointing out the yellow shirts in the third boat: that’s him! This time of year, proms and graduations are happening, and we are getting lots of pictures from near and far.

The last all-family reunion we had was for our 60th wedding anniversary, three years ago. Eleven of the fifteen family members our de Jong family has grown into could make it. Our joy these days is that the three siblings have mini reunions whenever there is an opportunity. And once or twice a year our daughters fly to North Carolina to see us. We are staying in the loop.

Shifts

While my writing had already changed from books to articles to Blog posts, it is now re-routing to reading more. Not only good books, but articles on exercising, staying healthy and improving memory. Right now I am reading The Women, a cannot-put-down story about nurses in the Vietnam war. Why another war story? Well, I know nothing about the Vietnam war, and although I have read several good books about WWII in Europe, stories about the war in Asia interest me more.

Lumosity has been a favorite mind strengthening program for years, and now they are offering a special online class in improving your memory 100%. It requires commitment on the computer for six or seven weeks. But since I can see and hear Mike from my lovely, sunny office, I should be able to do that.

Soon, I will resume the exercises on my yoga mat. Right now, I am recovering from a fall. On April 15, on an early walk with Lani, she saw another dog and dashed around me, her leash pulling me down. And I fell. Supported by my guardian angel, I fell in the border on my side with my hands out. It took the wind out of me, so I sat for a few minutes, but then got up and walked home. Not a single bruise, no pain, I could just go to work. The pain came a day later, in both my sides, and was so severe, that I got the strongest pain killer Google suggested: Aleve. I took it twice a day for five days. Then, when I did not feel so well and took my blood pressure, it was so high that I had to go to the ER. Our Apex hospital is only 4 miles from here, so we were there fast. All tests were good, so I was home again in time for dinner. Apparently, the Aleve conflicted with one of the two medications I am taking. From now on I will check interactions whenever I get a new prescription for whatever! I have my own cuff now, and store it in a rattan basket that I used to keep my Hawaiian leis in when I was still dancing, just a few years ago, in Waltonwood. See the shift here? From garlands around my neck to one around my upper arm. 🙂

Quiet contentment

Mike loves to watch the many concerts of world famous Dutch violinist André Rieu on Television from his recliner and we usually watch the news during our lunch hour. I love to do some gardening outside in the border and inside repotting plants that are doing well. I have a beautiful red poinsettia that dates back to December 1, 2023. I will have to find out if I can hold it over till next December. That is not all though. My days are full with the things I mentioned earlier and also with making doctors’ appointments, ordering groceries and meals, and all the other things needed to keep a household running. Together, we make a happy life.

Regular weekly posts will be a thing of the past. Do not expect any, then it will be a surprise if a new post arrives in your mailbox. I would love any messages and comments and of course emails and texts if you have time. Stay safe and healthy!

Until next time,

Ronny